The Play Mate And Soul Mate Factor

The Play mate and Soul mate Factor

        Kristie Your deep black eyes tell me they've been wandering all this while looking for that one person to trust and forget all it's worries. Monica,that's exactly what Jake told me.

The Picture may not very closely match kristie and
Monica's Reaction! :P

Don't you think he's cute? See that's his picture and I've already narrated the text message to you *blushing*. On the other hand Monica doesn't find Jake cute or trustworthy,she rather finds him cheesy and unattractive. This conversation might just end with a disagreement from kristie's side. And not much to say as such. But it so happens that after a period of a couple of days kristie suddenly feels as if her Knight in Shining Armour is suddenly a Road side Romeo on a cycle (Please bare with the absurd contradiction). After reviewing Kristie's change in opinion, most of us will not agree to the fact that Kristie's change in opinion is somewhere very obviously due to her friend Monica's opinion about Jake. Again here the majority of us will deny the fact that we all play kristie's part in our real lives when it comes to dating.  Even if our friends don't approve the potential guy/girl we tend to re-structure our thoughts and start perceiving that guy/girl as our friends do.

    As the tittle suggests the playmate (Friend) and the Soul mate (partner) factor are closely related in our lives. There have been instances of a mental stuck up for individuals when the friends just don't approve 'The Boyfriend' for varied reasons from he wears pants  which are too tight to he needs to get his attitude upright. The boyfriend on the other hand tags it as jealousy from the girlfriend's friend circle side.   And that's what you call the PERFECTLY SANDWICHED. In case you're wondering if that's even a word. Well, no other word describes this situation any better. If it sounds like an exaggerated situation, Ask the Love and Sex Expert segment on frequently asked questions provide quite a testimonial on this seemingly exaggerated reality.

It's not just the Tender Side of the population (as some might describe it). Men are an equal and  accountable victims of the Playmate and Soul mate factor. As the human psychology works,everything is always exciting initially, So is a relationship. As they say,When you're in love,you see that person through rose-tinted glasses. According to a recent survey, Friends can have a big impact,especially in the beginning when you're trying to form your initial impressions,Before the blind love sets in. Guys who have bromances with your buddies tend to be more influenced by what their friends think. If they think the girl is hot and perfect for the him,the guy automatically tends to perceive the girl in the same way.And id they equivocate or see flaws,his perception mechanism is quite likely to work in the same direction.

    

At the end of the day,Friends and their views are precious and meant for you own good. It's not necessary that they're always jealous or always right for that matter Striking a balance between their views and perceiving reality is where the challenge lies. On that note, Have a challenging life and learn to enjoy and acknowledge the soul mate and playmate factor. 

Yes! it teaches you a great deal.