The louder language

The LOUDER language

Fie, fie upon her!

There's language in her eye, her cheek, her lip,
Nay, her foot speaks; her wanton spirits look out

At every joint and motive of her body. 

                                                                - William Shakespeare

They say, Action speaks louder than words, a woman can speak a thousand words with a mere blink of the eye.(sounds like an overstatement,but yes,every bit of it is true).
In simple sense of the word Body language is a form of mental and physical ability of human non-verbal communication consisting of body posture,gestures, facial expressions and eye moments. But in the broad sense of the word, Body language is a window to the soul. Over the years,body language has been a great source of deriving the other person's on going thoughts.Yes,there exist people who have already perfected this art and know well to manipulate this form of non verbal communication. (The growing number of institutions on soft skills usually named as something like-THE CORPORATE WAY are a clear evidence of the growing demand in the manipulation sector,specially when it's about moulding your body language.) 

Body language has always  played a vital part in understanding the other person's message. 
In our formative years,cinema alone has taught us the importance of body language. If the girl turns back it's a clear indication that  she likes you back. Alright, that's more like an exaggerated idea. But there's no denying to the fact that body language can be a great source of communication on the very first date. If one looks at it, a first date is often considered to be equivalent to a job interview. You want to present the best side of you and leave a positive impression on the other person. This is just where body language plays it's part in the whole story. If you're stating one thing and your body language is stating something else it can lead to an absolute failed mixed message.  And just what you can call the first and last date with that person. 
Well the popular romantic movie The Notebook will be a perfect example featuring,   
Young Noah (Ryan Gosling): 
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.”

                                        

I wonder what message would Allie have received had Noah delivered his feelings with an expression as shown in the picture. It surely would have left Allie rather confused whether Noah desired her or the washroom. His expression clearly denotes a strong urge to visit the washroom more than anything else. Oh coming back to reality,that's only an imaginative example.Luckily the movie was set with a perfect body language clearly matching the delivered dialogues.

It's just not the dating section where body language plays a vital role, obviously it's a form of communication, it is bound of have equal rather it has more importance than any other form of communication. The different messages that body language delivers on a day to day basis is rather astounding. Right from a little kid when his mother gives him 'The wide eyed look' which clearly gives him the message that he's goofing up to 'The mutual gaze' shared by people belonging to the opposite  sex often conveyed as attraction.

                                      

 And it goes with saying, body language has a more than an influential effect on the professional dynamic front. Body language plays a vital role in the business sector as well.For instance, standing too close to a client may make you appear pushy whereas standing too far away could make you seem distant.

 According to a recent survey, the body language communicates approximately 50 percent of what you really mean, voice tonality contribution is about 38 percent and your words contribute only 7 percent. A very common reason for conflicts arising out of stated statements, "what she said didn't hurt me,but it's how she said it".

And last but not the least. Coming to one of the most important sector of the society, The  entertainment industry.Over the years, Mr.Bean has been a perfect example of how body language could reflect numerous emotions. Here's a video depicting his opinion about the roller coaster ride.

He conveys his opinion about the ride merely by his expressions without any saying. 

                                                    

On a closing note, I would only like to say, Mark your Body language. It speaks louder than anything else.

The Play Mate And Soul Mate Factor

The Play mate and Soul mate Factor

        Kristie Your deep black eyes tell me they've been wandering all this while looking for that one person to trust and forget all it's worries. Monica,that's exactly what Jake told me.

The Picture may not very closely match kristie and
Monica's Reaction! :P

Don't you think he's cute? See that's his picture and I've already narrated the text message to you *blushing*. On the other hand Monica doesn't find Jake cute or trustworthy,she rather finds him cheesy and unattractive. This conversation might just end with a disagreement from kristie's side. And not much to say as such. But it so happens that after a period of a couple of days kristie suddenly feels as if her Knight in Shining Armour is suddenly a Road side Romeo on a cycle (Please bare with the absurd contradiction). After reviewing Kristie's change in opinion, most of us will not agree to the fact that Kristie's change in opinion is somewhere very obviously due to her friend Monica's opinion about Jake. Again here the majority of us will deny the fact that we all play kristie's part in our real lives when it comes to dating.  Even if our friends don't approve the potential guy/girl we tend to re-structure our thoughts and start perceiving that guy/girl as our friends do.

    As the tittle suggests the playmate (Friend) and the Soul mate (partner) factor are closely related in our lives. There have been instances of a mental stuck up for individuals when the friends just don't approve 'The Boyfriend' for varied reasons from he wears pants  which are too tight to he needs to get his attitude upright. The boyfriend on the other hand tags it as jealousy from the girlfriend's friend circle side.   And that's what you call the PERFECTLY SANDWICHED. In case you're wondering if that's even a word. Well, no other word describes this situation any better. If it sounds like an exaggerated situation, Ask the Love and Sex Expert segment on frequently asked questions provide quite a testimonial on this seemingly exaggerated reality.

It's not just the Tender Side of the population (as some might describe it). Men are an equal and  accountable victims of the Playmate and Soul mate factor. As the human psychology works,everything is always exciting initially, So is a relationship. As they say,When you're in love,you see that person through rose-tinted glasses. According to a recent survey, Friends can have a big impact,especially in the beginning when you're trying to form your initial impressions,Before the blind love sets in. Guys who have bromances with your buddies tend to be more influenced by what their friends think. If they think the girl is hot and perfect for the him,the guy automatically tends to perceive the girl in the same way.And id they equivocate or see flaws,his perception mechanism is quite likely to work in the same direction.

    

At the end of the day,Friends and their views are precious and meant for you own good. It's not necessary that they're always jealous or always right for that matter Striking a balance between their views and perceiving reality is where the challenge lies. On that note, Have a challenging life and learn to enjoy and acknowledge the soul mate and playmate factor. 

Yes! it teaches you a great deal.